Often times I find myself in the middle of conversations with these topics. Who is a father? What is the ideal father? Is a father the same as a dad? I have heard many definitions of who a dad and father is. Some people seem to have the notion that a father is purely a biological donor and a dad is a more intimate person, someone that is there for you and cares for you. Ok. Honestly I can't seem to shake the fact that a lot of people forget that the word dad is just a modern term of the word father. "Father" has become such a formal term and dad which is more of a colloquial term has become more responsive.
The thing is when I was a child, I grew up calling my paternal parent father and dad. I interchanged them like I interchanged the words mother and mum. To me they meant exactly the same thing.
I remember when I was 15, I was upset with my mum and I kept calling her mother for the whole day to make myself feel a little distant from her, just because I was upset. It hadn't dawned on me then that the words mother and father had become different to the words mum and dad. The same things occurred again with my dad when I was 18. The modern culture affiliated with nature of these words had become embedded in me before I realised it. The word father had become a negative perspective of fatherhood. From then on I made the conscious decision to stop that way of thinking.
A father isn't just a random sperm donor. Who just happened have given me half of my genetic traits. A father is so much more and a dad is just to be a part of it, and that is why even when I called my dad father or my mum mother. I still felt as close to them, even closer as I was more aware of the bond between us which was the deep genetic lineage, which made me the little bit more upset....lol, I was a stubborn child.
A father is someone who had a part to play in who you are and will become. A father is the man who shed a tear filled with joy when he held you in his arms for the first time, and from that moment devoted his life to protect, love and care for you. A father is a dad show plays with you, comes down to your level and converses with you. A shoulder to cry on when mum's not around....lol. A leader and a teacher. A friend and your most trusted confidant. A person to who your happiness is key and makes sure of it. A person that will tell you off with one hand when your are wrong and draw you in with the other to comfort you. To me That is who a father is.
If our Fathers can be this wonderful and loving then how much more our heavenly father.
How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! –1 John 3:1
Happy father's day to all the amazing Fathers.
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